Comments for misspriss.org http://misspriss.org she who must be obeyed Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:37:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 Comment on Bad days are inevitable by becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/#comment-360 becky Tue, 19 Aug 2008 03:26:21 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-360 @canape - I would have never quit my job to become a writer had I not been forced to make a decision. I easily could have stayed within my comfort zone. I think we'll bring in enough money to get by, although I'd much rather earn enough to be comfortable - and afford insurance even if it is pricey. It may take some time before we're where we want to be. But this actually frees us up to move to a cheaper place, as now I can work from anywhere. @heather - Daycare was a big part of my decision. It would have been over half of my salary to put him in daycare. I wanted to work part-time, but that didn't work out. We need to adjust our spending habits for now, until we can get used to a tighter budget. And I just have to keep looking for the steady, good gigs. I have a couple that are quite nice, and enjoyable. I just need more like them. Thank you for stopping by. It helps me to know others have made it, and that we will, too. @canape - I would have never quit my job to become a writer had I not been forced to make a decision. I easily could have stayed within my comfort zone. I think we’ll bring in enough money to get by, although I’d much rather earn enough to be comfortable - and afford insurance even if it is pricey. It may take some time before we’re where we want to be. But this actually frees us up to move to a cheaper place, as now I can work from anywhere.

@heather - Daycare was a big part of my decision. It would have been over half of my salary to put him in daycare. I wanted to work part-time, but that didn’t work out. We need to adjust our spending habits for now, until we can get used to a tighter budget. And I just have to keep looking for the steady, good gigs. I have a couple that are quite nice, and enjoyable. I just need more like them. Thank you for stopping by. It helps me to know others have made it, and that we will, too.

]]> Comment on Bad days are inevitable by becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/#comment-359 becky Tue, 19 Aug 2008 03:11:09 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-359 @steve - it's funny you mention that. I guess I'm a little scared of hoping for good things, like if I think about them they'll disappear like a faint wisp of smoke. It's something you can only see out of the corner of your eye - look directly at them and they're gone. But maybe my problem is that I just haven't been dreaming big enough. Thank you for your article and your subsequent comment. I do need to change the way I think and stop letting worry cripple me. It starts today. @steve - it’s funny you mention that. I guess I’m a little scared of hoping for good things, like if I think about them they’ll disappear like a faint wisp of smoke. It’s something you can only see out of the corner of your eye - look directly at them and they’re gone. But maybe my problem is that I just haven’t been dreaming big enough. Thank you for your article and your subsequent comment. I do need to change the way I think and stop letting worry cripple me. It starts today.

]]> Comment on Bad days are inevitable by Heather http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/#comment-358 Heather Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:39:56 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-358 I understand your worries. My daycare suddenly gave notice when my first son was a baby. I couldn't find anything affordable enough to make working worthwhile, so I quit. I was worried. I think that's pretty natural. We go through that and then we move on to a sense of peace, knowing it will somehow work out. Now I have a second son and am still at home, no extra income from me. It really does work out, miraculously every month, we get by. Thank you for your honesty, Heather Heather's last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheExtraordinaryOrdinary/~3/368301870/exclusive-interview.html" rel="nofollow">Exclusive Interview</a> I understand your worries. My daycare suddenly gave notice when my first son was a baby. I couldn’t find anything affordable enough to make working worthwhile, so I quit. I was worried. I think that’s pretty natural. We go through that and then we move on to a sense of peace, knowing it will somehow work out.
Now I have a second son and am still at home, no extra income from me. It really does work out, miraculously every month, we get by.
Thank you for your honesty,
Heather

Heather’s last blog post..Exclusive Interview

]]> Comment on Bad days are inevitable by canape http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/#comment-350 canape Mon, 18 Aug 2008 18:49:19 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-350 That is really scary. I got fired right after I got separated and had to refinance my house by myself to get my ex off the mortgage. That was so not fun. And insurance? Scary times 100. That was only 3 years ago, and I am in such a better place now it's not even funny. I haven't known you long, but I have the distinct feeling that you are going to come out way ahead of all of this. Sometimes a push off the cliff is all we need to learn how to fly. canape's last blog post..<a href="http://canapesun.blogspot.com/2008/08/house-hunting-continues.html" rel="nofollow">The house hunting continues</a> That is really scary. I got fired right after I got separated and had to refinance my house by myself to get my ex off the mortgage. That was so not fun. And insurance? Scary times 100. That was only 3 years ago, and I am in such a better place now it’s not even funny.

I haven’t known you long, but I have the distinct feeling that you are going to come out way ahead of all of this. Sometimes a push off the cliff is all we need to learn how to fly.

canape’s last blog post..The house hunting continues

]]> Comment on Bad days are inevitable by Steve Pavlina http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/#comment-349 Steve Pavlina Mon, 18 Aug 2008 17:13:03 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-349 If it's your nature to worry, then spend your time worrying that something good might happen unexpectedly. Worrying about the bad stuff that never happens is boring and circular. It's also kinda amateurish if you're a skilled worrier. If you want to get really good at worrying, start worrying about the good stuff. What if I stumble upon a way to make double the money my old job paid in half the time? What if I love spending time with my kid? What if I accidentally become really happy and can't shake it? OMIGOD! What will I do then? If you're going to worry, then make sure your worries are worthy of you. Worrying about how you'll pay the bills is lame. Instead, try worrying about what might happen if you get more than what you ask for. What would that do to you? If it’s your nature to worry, then spend your time worrying that something good might happen unexpectedly. Worrying about the bad stuff that never happens is boring and circular. It’s also kinda amateurish if you’re a skilled worrier.

If you want to get really good at worrying, start worrying about the good stuff. What if I stumble upon a way to make double the money my old job paid in half the time? What if I love spending time with my kid? What if I accidentally become really happy and can’t shake it? OMIGOD! What will I do then?

If you’re going to worry, then make sure your worries are worthy of you. Worrying about how you’ll pay the bills is lame. Instead, try worrying about what might happen if you get more than what you ask for. What would that do to you?

]]> Comment on We made it through a whole week by becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/09/we-made-it-through-a-whole-week/#comment-340 becky Wed, 13 Aug 2008 05:35:45 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=71#comment-340 @canape - now that you mention it, I don't remember any of that stuff from when I was a kid. Right now I'm worried about trying to meet my basic obligations. I shouldn't feel this overwhelmed at this point, should I? But yeah, the kid isn't going to remember a messy house. I sure hope he remembers a feeling of love, though. @canape - now that you mention it, I don’t remember any of that stuff from when I was a kid. Right now I’m worried about trying to meet my basic obligations. I shouldn’t feel this overwhelmed at this point, should I? But yeah, the kid isn’t going to remember a messy house. I sure hope he remembers a feeling of love, though.

]]> Comment on My heart by becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/10/my-heart/#comment-339 becky Wed, 13 Aug 2008 05:33:05 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=72#comment-339 Thank you. This love really is amazing. Thank you. This love really is amazing.

]]> Comment on My heart by canape http://misspriss.org/2008/08/10/my-heart/#comment-338 canape Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:57:55 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=72#comment-338 "You gave me a gift that I couldn’t fathom until now. I knew I always wanted you, and while I couldn’t imagine my life with you before, I now can’t consider it without you." I completely concur. canape's last blog post..<a href="http://canapesun.blogspot.com/2008/08/please-sir-can-i-have-another.html" rel="nofollow">Please sir can I have another?</a> “You gave me a gift that I couldn’t fathom until now. I knew I always wanted you, and while I couldn’t imagine my life with you before, I now can’t consider it without you.”

I completely concur.

canape’s last blog post..Please sir can I have another?

]]> Comment on We made it through a whole week by canape http://misspriss.org/2008/08/09/we-made-it-through-a-whole-week/#comment-337 canape Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:56:16 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=71#comment-337 I asked my mom what the secret was to getting it all done. She had two kids and a full time job too. She said the secret was that she didn't get it all done. That I just didn't remember the dirty house or the leftovers three nights in a row or the other things that stressed her out. That made me feel a lot better. canape's last blog post..<a href="http://canapesun.blogspot.com/2008/08/please-sir-can-i-have-another.html" rel="nofollow">Please sir can I have another?</a> I asked my mom what the secret was to getting it all done. She had two kids and a full time job too.

She said the secret was that she didn’t get it all done. That I just didn’t remember the dirty house or the leftovers three nights in a row or the other things that stressed her out.

That made me feel a lot better.

canape’s last blog post..Please sir can I have another?

]]> Comment on We made it through a whole week by becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/09/we-made-it-through-a-whole-week/#comment-322 becky Sun, 10 Aug 2008 03:33:04 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=71#comment-322 @skye - i know he needs to entertain himself, and i do try to let him do that. i try to let him be while he's content. but yeah, there's been a lot less of that. tooth #3 is about 1/3 of the way in and the other two feel like they're popping through shortly. i can certainly understand why he's been cranky. i like that idea of chores on certain days. but his naps are so unpredictable still. we have the mornings down. eat, rest a little bit, get up, play in the highchair while mommy grabs breakfast, then it's time for him to eat. that's about as far as we get in a routine. the rest of the day is anybody's guess. today i took him out of the house mid-morning and wound up staying out most of the day. it'll be interesting to see how he sleeps tonight. i think i'll try what you suggest, and see what things i can do once a week on various days. laundry's the hardest, because we have a laundry room at the end of the building, and not our own w&d. it's too tough to cart him back & forth and the laundry. and in the evening i'm usually too tired to do it. but it must be done, so it's time to figure out something. i'll just have to do it when i'm tired. ;) @skye - i know he needs to entertain himself, and i do try to let him do that. i try to let him be while he’s content. but yeah, there’s been a lot less of that. tooth #3 is about 1/3 of the way in and the other two feel like they’re popping through shortly. i can certainly understand why he’s been cranky.

i like that idea of chores on certain days. but his naps are so unpredictable still. we have the mornings down. eat, rest a little bit, get up, play in the highchair while mommy grabs breakfast, then it’s time for him to eat. that’s about as far as we get in a routine. the rest of the day is anybody’s guess. today i took him out of the house mid-morning and wound up staying out most of the day. it’ll be interesting to see how he sleeps tonight.

i think i’ll try what you suggest, and see what things i can do once a week on various days. laundry’s the hardest, because we have a laundry room at the end of the building, and not our own w&d. it’s too tough to cart him back & forth and the laundry. and in the evening i’m usually too tired to do it. but it must be done, so it’s time to figure out something. i’ll just have to do it when i’m tired. ;)

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