Comments on: Bad days are inevitable http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/ she who must be obeyed Sun, 01 Aug 2010 05:52:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/comment-page-1/#comment-360 becky Tue, 19 Aug 2008 03:26:21 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-360 @canape - I would have never quit my job to become a writer had I not been forced to make a decision. I easily could have stayed within my comfort zone. I think we'll bring in enough money to get by, although I'd much rather earn enough to be comfortable - and afford insurance even if it is pricey. It may take some time before we're where we want to be. But this actually frees us up to move to a cheaper place, as now I can work from anywhere. @heather - Daycare was a big part of my decision. It would have been over half of my salary to put him in daycare. I wanted to work part-time, but that didn't work out. We need to adjust our spending habits for now, until we can get used to a tighter budget. And I just have to keep looking for the steady, good gigs. I have a couple that are quite nice, and enjoyable. I just need more like them. Thank you for stopping by. It helps me to know others have made it, and that we will, too. @canape – I would have never quit my job to become a writer had I not been forced to make a decision. I easily could have stayed within my comfort zone. I think we’ll bring in enough money to get by, although I’d much rather earn enough to be comfortable – and afford insurance even if it is pricey. It may take some time before we’re where we want to be. But this actually frees us up to move to a cheaper place, as now I can work from anywhere.

@heather – Daycare was a big part of my decision. It would have been over half of my salary to put him in daycare. I wanted to work part-time, but that didn’t work out. We need to adjust our spending habits for now, until we can get used to a tighter budget. And I just have to keep looking for the steady, good gigs. I have a couple that are quite nice, and enjoyable. I just need more like them. Thank you for stopping by. It helps me to know others have made it, and that we will, too.

]]> By: becky http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/comment-page-1/#comment-359 becky Tue, 19 Aug 2008 03:11:09 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-359 @steve - it's funny you mention that. I guess I'm a little scared of hoping for good things, like if I think about them they'll disappear like a faint wisp of smoke. It's something you can only see out of the corner of your eye - look directly at them and they're gone. But maybe my problem is that I just haven't been dreaming big enough. Thank you for your article and your subsequent comment. I do need to change the way I think and stop letting worry cripple me. It starts today. @steve – it’s funny you mention that. I guess I’m a little scared of hoping for good things, like if I think about them they’ll disappear like a faint wisp of smoke. It’s something you can only see out of the corner of your eye – look directly at them and they’re gone. But maybe my problem is that I just haven’t been dreaming big enough. Thank you for your article and your subsequent comment. I do need to change the way I think and stop letting worry cripple me. It starts today.

]]> By: Heather http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/comment-page-1/#comment-358 Heather Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:39:56 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-358 I understand your worries. My daycare suddenly gave notice when my first son was a baby. I couldn't find anything affordable enough to make working worthwhile, so I quit. I was worried. I think that's pretty natural. We go through that and then we move on to a sense of peace, knowing it will somehow work out. Now I have a second son and am still at home, no extra income from me. It really does work out, miraculously every month, we get by. Thank you for your honesty, Heather Heather's last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheExtraordinaryOrdinary/~3/368301870/exclusive-interview.html" rel="nofollow">Exclusive Interview</a> I understand your worries. My daycare suddenly gave notice when my first son was a baby. I couldn’t find anything affordable enough to make working worthwhile, so I quit. I was worried. I think that’s pretty natural. We go through that and then we move on to a sense of peace, knowing it will somehow work out.
Now I have a second son and am still at home, no extra income from me. It really does work out, miraculously every month, we get by.
Thank you for your honesty,
Heather

Heather’s last blog post..Exclusive Interview

]]> By: canape http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/comment-page-1/#comment-350 canape Mon, 18 Aug 2008 18:49:19 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-350 That is really scary. I got fired right after I got separated and had to refinance my house by myself to get my ex off the mortgage. That was so not fun. And insurance? Scary times 100. That was only 3 years ago, and I am in such a better place now it's not even funny. I haven't known you long, but I have the distinct feeling that you are going to come out way ahead of all of this. Sometimes a push off the cliff is all we need to learn how to fly. canape's last blog post..<a href="http://canapesun.blogspot.com/2008/08/house-hunting-continues.html" rel="nofollow">The house hunting continues</a> That is really scary. I got fired right after I got separated and had to refinance my house by myself to get my ex off the mortgage. That was so not fun. And insurance? Scary times 100. That was only 3 years ago, and I am in such a better place now it’s not even funny.

I haven’t known you long, but I have the distinct feeling that you are going to come out way ahead of all of this. Sometimes a push off the cliff is all we need to learn how to fly.

canape’s last blog post..The house hunting continues

]]> By: Steve Pavlina http://misspriss.org/2008/08/17/bad-days-are-inevitable/comment-page-1/#comment-349 Steve Pavlina Mon, 18 Aug 2008 17:13:03 +0000 http://misspriss.org/?p=73#comment-349 If it's your nature to worry, then spend your time worrying that something good might happen unexpectedly. Worrying about the bad stuff that never happens is boring and circular. It's also kinda amateurish if you're a skilled worrier. If you want to get really good at worrying, start worrying about the good stuff. What if I stumble upon a way to make double the money my old job paid in half the time? What if I love spending time with my kid? What if I accidentally become really happy and can't shake it? OMIGOD! What will I do then? If you're going to worry, then make sure your worries are worthy of you. Worrying about how you'll pay the bills is lame. Instead, try worrying about what might happen if you get more than what you ask for. What would that do to you? If it’s your nature to worry, then spend your time worrying that something good might happen unexpectedly. Worrying about the bad stuff that never happens is boring and circular. It’s also kinda amateurish if you’re a skilled worrier.

If you want to get really good at worrying, start worrying about the good stuff. What if I stumble upon a way to make double the money my old job paid in half the time? What if I love spending time with my kid? What if I accidentally become really happy and can’t shake it? OMIGOD! What will I do then?

If you’re going to worry, then make sure your worries are worthy of you. Worrying about how you’ll pay the bills is lame. Instead, try worrying about what might happen if you get more than what you ask for. What would that do to you?

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