Comments on: what do you say in times like these?

By: becky

becky — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:01:45 +0000

Kristen, thank you. I need to have those discussions with my parents, too. Although they have been doing some planning, I have to ask what it is they’ve done, just so I’ll know.

Getting older sucks, because everyone around you gets older, too.

By: Kristen

Kristen — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 18:53:38 +0000

I’m so sorry to hear about that. My husband lost his father this year, very unexpectedly, at the age of 62, and is it still difficult to deal with that, but it makes us think about his mother’s and my parents’ mortality, and it’s hard. And I don’t know what there is to say — you just go on and do what you do and enjoy what you can, and cry when you need to even though nothing seems to have brought it on.

The one good thing that came out of all of this was having some serious Grown Up discussions with my folks about what will happen when one or both of them passes. I now know where all their papers are, what insurance policies they have, and what their wishes are, so hopefully, when it happens (in 30 years), I won’t have to do a lot of thinking.

By: becky

becky — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:06:31 +0000

Arleigh, my mom is also my best friend. I don’t know what I’d do without her. Thanks for your kind words.

By: Arleigh

Arleigh — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:03:21 +0000

I’m sorry your aunt and family have to go through such a painful experience. The only thing you can do is concentrate on the time she has left, making her as comfortable as possible and showing her you care. Death is never easy and it always reminds one of his or her own morality (or that of loved ones close in age). I know how you feel when you say you don’t want to lose your parents. My mom is my best friend and I hope she is around for many more years.

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