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laughter can be the best medicine | misspriss.org — Sat, 17 May 2008 05:56:28 +0000

[…] to deal with that, keep up with the writing I do have, keep up with my job and the stuff going on there, care for my son (and actually be present), and somewhere in there actually spend some time with my […]

By: becky

becky — Tue, 06 May 2008 18:32:14 +0000

@rachel - thanks. i really am working on it. i suppose it’s silly to think that he won’t need me as much. we’re so close right now. i know over time it lessens, but i don’t want going to work to be one of the catalysts. i love how he leans into me when he’s taking a nap. how he strokes my arm when i lay my hand on his chest. how he always wants to drape his leg over mine when he’s sleeping. i’m afraid that will go away.

By: rachel

rachel — Tue, 06 May 2008 16:49:07 +0000

Bless your heart. I’m so sorry that you’re having to make this decision, it must be heartbreaking. I hope you find some peace with this difficult decision.

rachel’s last blog post..Blissfully Boy-sterous

By: becky

becky — Sun, 04 May 2008 05:52:09 +0000

@eliza - thank you.

By: Eliza

Eliza — Sat, 03 May 2008 10:31:21 +0000

so sorry you are going through this, it would be the hardest decision for any mom to decide. ;( Wishing you the best of luck. Eliza's last blog post..Momma’s Coffee Break

By: becky

becky — Sat, 03 May 2008 02:26:20 +0000

first, thank you ladies so much. thank you for stopping by and encouraging me. i really needed that. i’m crying less, although i still tear up when i have to talk about it. but i’m adjusting to the idea a little. i don’t want to, but i know i need to for my sanity. times like this are when i love this community so very much.

@brandy - you and i have talked at length about this. i’m just one of those who wants to do it myself, no offense to terrific caregivers out there. you’re right - the important part is his first time with me. thank you for reminding me of that. and the socialization will be great for him, too. and maybe me, even.

@sarah - i guess i’m just afraid that bond will lessen a little bit. i know it will over time, i just don’t want it to when he’s still so young.

@suebob - thank you. let me pose with your stapler and it might lessen the pain a tiny bit.

@belinda - i’ll probably be right there with you. i’m hoping i’ll be able to work in some telecommuting or something.

@nina - i’ve been lucky to be easing into it. i’m working part-time right now. but they insist that i must return full-time. we had originally agreed to that anyway, on this schedule. i was just so darn hopeful that we could work something else out. bleh.

@karianna - my head knows this, but my emotions still resist.

@liza - thank you. i will definitely check out that site. unfortunately, i put a lot of pressure on myself. i’ve always tried to be everything to everyone. and it’s damn tough.

By: Liza

Liza — Fri, 02 May 2008 21:54:12 +0000

Women wear so many hats, like mother, employee, daughter and friend, and it is hard for the opposite sex to over fathom what we go through sometimes just to be all things to all people, and still be bright and happy at the end of the day. Our loved ones expect a lot from us, and I understand you are feeling overwhelmed by your obligations. At the end of the day realize that you are meant to be loved and cherished no matter if you can perfectly fulfill you duties at all times. I’ve been in your shoes exactly, and I’ve sought assistance from family and and friends. I even started looking online for web community support. I found this website called http://www.bewhoyouare.com — they have lots of inspiring words and advice to women like you and me. I frequent this site a lot and I recommend it to women like us.

By: Karianna

Karianna — Fri, 02 May 2008 17:09:30 +0000

It will get easier. Coming home at the end of the day will be so sweet. You will have enthusiastic quality time with him and you’ll always be his mama.

By: Nina

Nina — Fri, 02 May 2008 02:45:18 +0000

It’s really difficult in the beginning. I just went back to work three weeks ago and it’s just starting to feel routine now.
Hang in there.

Nina’s last blog post..Happy 5 Months, Ella

By: Belinda

Belinda — Thu, 01 May 2008 21:45:30 +0000

Ugh, I’m so sorry. I still feel the pangs every day, and my daughter is 5. I somehow manage to overlook the fact of how great she’s doing and still manage to feel sorry for myself.