I am fortunate to be in a committed, monogamous relationship and have been for 7 years. So if I forget a pill once in a while, it’s not the end of the world. When I was single, though, I was VERY careful about birth control. I knew what a pregnancy would do to my life – how it would change. And it would have changed MY life – not the man’s. At least, not nearly as much. He wouldn’t go through the stigma of being unwed, getting asked all of the questions by well-meaning and even nosey people. He wouldn’t have to take time off of work to go to the doctor for endless appointments and then have to go through labor and delivery. So while birth control is everyone’s responsibility, I knew that deep down it was really mine it I wanted to keep control of my life.